Which of These Three Men Are You?

This Post was written by a good friend of mine Joffre Swait. He is a giant. Im not kidding, my first encounter of him was at a rugby game. Towering over everyone, he was sporting an epic beard and a cigar in his mouth. He enjoys his tobacco, beer and family (not in that order). Check out his blog here. To follow him on Twitter @Joffrethegiant.


There is a man who is small and mean. He is the slave of his base appetites, distracted at every turn from being fully a man by his hunger, his sex, and his sloth. His greatest desire is to make it to the weekend, when he will not have to work the following morning, that he may drink himself into the stupidity he craves. His weeknights he spends sweatily online, desperately fapping to images of women he would make into his slaves if only he had the will. He himself is a slave to his most base desires, reaching masturbatorily for the quickest fix to his latest urge, each new urge turning in this way into a new master.

There is another man who is virile, and possessed of a flint forehead. He is untrammelled by his low appetites; instead, he is their master. In that mastery he sees a strength worthy of recognition. He dominates not only himself, but any who are not strong enough to overcome him. His desire is for something else. He seeks power, and surrounds himself with the trappings thereof. Ensnared by his desire for mastery, he seeks desperately to hide any evidence of the pit he has dug for himself with the symbols of power.

There is a third man whose longings and desires are not misplaced. This is the man who is at peace with God and man, including himself. He neither is dominated nor seeks to dominate. His will governs his own desires, and that most kindly, because his will desires good. He therefore has joy, because his desire, like any desire, is shaped by its object, and its object is good. He has peace because he has joy, and is happy because he has peace.

You might be all three men, but which of these three men do you wish to be?

What I mean to ask is, will you be a cigarette smoker, a cigar smoker, or a pipe smoker?


“All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.” -Julian of Norwich


If you’re looking for a thirsty woman, shell just assume you’re a dog.

The old saying goes, “A man is only as good as the Woman behind him.”If this is true, and I’m not for second saying it is, then some men need to learn how to “pick up” a women. Most men get stuck in the “Friend Zone.” This Little tid bit of advice, is a quick step by step on how to be viewed as less of “just a friend” and more of a potential mate. Example

Before we go into any steps, there is one thing i need to make sure i explain. I am a Advertizing major. I have been in school to learn how to sell useless products to people that don’t need them. Let’s be honest, today woman are told, “be independent! You don’t need a man!…theres no point in a relationship!” and so on and on and on. So, most woman are not “looking.” But, men let me reassure you, they are. But like any useless product that can be sold, you too can sell yourself. It’s all about the approach.

We learn in Advertizing that you need to “creat a problem, then sell the solution.”

These steps, will rely a lot on that main fundamental.
So heres the situation.

The Problem: The Woman is looking for a relationship, you…you are the solution.

Some of you might be asking how am I the solution? You are the solution because you can be exactly what she is looking for. You just have to have the courage to know that you are what she needs.

1. The approach
Most men shy away because of the fear of rejection. That fear is felt even by the best ladies man. On the initial approach you need to intrigue the woman while still reaming genuine. Men, compliments are great, but woman expect them. If you think the girl is gorgeous its likely that every other guy in building thinks so too. So start off with a different approach, which brings us to number two…

2. Always ask questions.
Be interested in what she has to say.ask a question about the bar, coffee shop, the drink she’s drinking. keep going into the conversation
Even if you have no idea what she is talking about be honest and tell her politely. Try and have something intelligent to say back. Keep her talking and thinking, but don’t dive into past relationships on the first encounter. Doing so will put you into the friend zone and there is no reason in bringing up old dirt. Keep the conversation light and fun.

3. Make her Laugh
Women love a guy with a sense of humor! If you can add a witty comment while talking you basically have her hooked. You’ll seem less threatening, appear more comfortable and confident, thus separating yourself from every other guy.

4. Compliment her
Now that you have broken the ice, give the compliment. this will show your intentions are more than friendship and you have a interest in her in a romantic way. now that she knows you see her as a person the compliment will be better received. MEN! make sure the compliment is tactful, you are a gentleman not a starving dog in heat. Because if all your looking for is thirsty woman (female dogs) shell assume YOU are just a dog.

5. Ask for her number
The wrap up is the most important part, this is where you seal the deal! be bold and ask for her number. even if you don’t get it, it’s not the end of the world. Sometimes woman are just not ready, they may be romantically involved. Make sure you leave a lasting impression. Because, at some point you may run into them agin.

Remember even though this seems like a fool proof plan. Its not. Everything is situational, the better conversationalist you become the more confident you will seem when talking to woman.

Things every father should teach his son.

Growing up without a father is not an easy thing for anyone. The father is the strong hold (or should be) the strong hold for every family.

Proverbs 22:6 – “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” 

There is no book formual on how to be the perfect father or parent.The father is to train and discipline his son. In this training and discipling I believe that there are 5 things every father should teach his son.

5. How to play catch
The time spent playing catch are some of the most memorable times in the boy’s life. He’ll always remember the time dad came home to spend just tossing the ball around talking about the day.

4.How to mow the lawn
Learning to mow the lawn may seem weird, but it teaches the value of hard work and teaches to have respect for the family’s house hold appearance. Not only the appearance of the yard but how anything the son does reflects back on to the family.

3.How to drive
Learning to drive is a right of passage for any teenager. In a boy’s life as the father teaches him to drive he is also showing him how to be responsible. This is also a time for the father to show trust by letting him take the family car on the first date.

2. How to love/respect his mother

If the father shows his son how to love and respect his mother. The son will learn how to love and respect other woman.

1. How to pray
If a father that is man enough to admit to his son that he does not have all the answers the son will learn how to be humble. It is the fathers job to teach his son to pray when times are hard and to turn to the Lord when times are hard. Isaiah 38:19 The living, the living, he thanks you, as I do this day; the father makes known to the children your faithfulness.

Isaiah 38:19 “The living, the living, he thanks you, as I do this day; the father makes known to the children your faithfulness.”

7 things every man should own

If a man is only as good as his possessions, here are 7 things a man should acquire.

 7. ties / bow ties


A tie can make the suit.  It is the ultimate accent to a fine suit, an easy way to dress up a button down, the perfect way to take your outfit from casual to night-out-ready Not only is it a great accent to the perfect suit, there are a number of other uses for this wardrobe staple: 1) it can be a sexy restraint in the bedroom (spice up your married life) 2) if you are ever stranded on the second story of a house, neck ties could be tied together to help you Rapunzel out of the window (bet ya didn’t think of that one.)

 6. A flask.


Not every occasion calls for a drink. However, some occasions make you want to.  That’s why a nifty flask can always come in handy. Its sleek, fits in your pocket so therefore it can be easily concealed.  It can serve as a huge help in unfortunate situations.  For example, you run into your ex, take a sip, your boss is being a jerk (more so than usual), take a sip, you’re at another lovely wedding, you guessed it, take a sip, bar tabs running high lately? Carrying your own flasks well help during economic hard times.

 5. Own a gun….


nuff said

4. Swiss army knife


 Ah, the Swiss, not known for much more than their cheese…they have also brought us the handy pocketknife. This is essentially a modern man’s batman belt.  Full of useful tools that allow us to be the ultimate man

3. Shaving kit


Although I may not condone the act of shaving, to have the freshest beard, it is necessary to groom and keep the beard looking top notch. This is not made possible without a quality shaving kit.

2. Toolbox


What time is it? Tool time. All the time, Tim Taylor would agree…Every man should own a tool box encasing an assortment of all of your basic tools: hammer, nails, socket wrenches, screw drivers, a good pair of pliers, drills and drill bits, etc.  Tools are always good to have around whether you’re a handyman or not – it’s a useful item to increase your manliness.

 1. Jumper cables


This item is not only useful, but will likely provide an opportunity to score yourself a woman.  What better way to appear heroic than to rescue a damsel in distress.  How many times have you seen a woman with a dead battery? Coutless. She needs a man, she needs YOU to save the day.  Always keep jumper cabels in your car. Although jumping a car may be one of the easiest of tasks,  you will easily become the hero when you can put these cables to use and save a woman from being stranded with a dead vehicle (although the roads may be a bit safer if their kind would stay off of them).  What I’m saying here is keeping jumper cables will not only be helpful to you at times, but also could potentially be helpful to your love life.